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A teenager pulling away from the family

Wanting independence and privacy is a natural part of growing up. Stay close and learn to tell normal distance from warning signs.

What you may notice

  • They spend more time alone or with friends, and less with the family.
  • Answers have become short: 'Fine', 'Nothing', 'Don't know'.
  • They get irritated by questions and keep their phone to themselves.
  • They no longer want to go on family visits or to family celebrations.
  • They confide in friends more than in you.

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Possible reasons, step-by-step actions, what to avoid, how to use your child's strengths, and when to see a specialist.